I’m realizing I’ve spent a lotttttt of my life trying to love myself by improving myself.

I’m realizing I’ve spent a lotttttt of my life trying to love myself by improving myself. And those are not the same thing. In my life, they’ve actually been painfully at odds. I’ve exercised to shrink. Dressed to flatter. Edited what I wore to avoid judgment. Made choices for the woman I thought I should become instead of loving the woman standing here now. And the irony is, I was doing all of it because I thought the woman on the other side would finally be happier. But the harder I worked to become her, the further I got from the actual goal: enjoying my freaking life. Less joy. More monitoring. Less freedom. More fixing. Less me. And I’m tired of making the woman I am today earn the right to enjoy being alive. So I’m trying something new: What if love gets to go first? Before the workout. Before the outfit. Before the conversation. Before the decision. Not because the insecure voice magically disappeared. But because she doesn’t get to run my life anymore. I want to know what happens when I spend less energy correcting myself and more energy fully inhabiting myself. Maybe that’s self-love. Not finally becoming a version of yourself you can approve of. Choosing to be on your own side now—and letting JOY be part of the journey, not the prize waiting at the end. 💗 That’s the heart of The You Reveal. Feel first. Look second. Dress from the inside out. What would you choose differently today if love got the first vote? #loveher #awesomestyle #courageoverfear #authenticbeauty

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